Accepting Ourselves & Others
Have you ever wanted to accept yourself and others? Well, then you’re in the right place. This is one of the most important things that we have to do in life. Making sure that we can/able to do this makes life much easier for everyone. Not only is acceptance very important, but loving who we are as people and loving others for who they are is something we should learn to do. There are many ways to learn how we can accept ourselves and others.
These ideas that will help us all through acceptance are the 4 Progressive Stages of Acceptance:
-Acknowledge
The Reality: You notice the actions and facts about the situation and bring yourself back to the present moment.
The Action: Instead of avoiding, ignoring, or minimizing the situation, express exactly what's happening without judging the situation or the person.
-Allow
The Reality: You accept the feelings and circumstances you're struggling with, rather than ignoring them.
The Action:Stop fighting the reality of the situation, let your emotions be expressed out a lot rather than bottling them up.
-Accommodate
The Reality: Change your focus from “how things are supposed to be” to “what is currently happening.”
The Action: You realize that making changes in your everyday life, making changes, and learning to navigate through tough and complicated situations without being afraid of them.
-Appreciate
The Reality: Finding ways to have a successful life by facing the change or loss.
The Action: You change your perspective, notice different ways to see purpose, and allow new experiences to be involved in your growth and life.
Self-acceptance and accepting others can be tough for some people because we all have different expectations that we want people to meet. But that is unfortunately not accurate. This is tough, and that's why learning to process and figure out how we all can be ourselves and accept others while letting them be themselves.
Do you ever find like you’re being stuck in the moment with someone and getting frustrated at them or yourself, not knowing why they don’t meet your expectations?
Well, here's why, like I said before, acceptance is so important, but before we can accept anybody, we have to learn to love and accept ourselves. Doing this can be tough yet easy for some people. Let’s face we are all different, right? When you realize there are things that you do need to work on, for example: that you don't have to be part of a team or a group, not able to realize who we are, not able to accept who others are, not able to accept the reality, and can’t accept ourselves by how we are feeling. But in fact, this is not true.
How we should accept others and ourselves by accepting the problems and learning how to figure out the process of going through them, accepting the different hobbies or habits that others face or that we face, we have to be good about ourselves before anything else. Knowing how we & others feel is a very important thing that needs to be accepted. Being emotionally aware of who we are and not judging. Being kind to ourselves and others is not only showing that we accept them, but it's also showing that we can love ourselves and others without being judgmental and harsh. If we can't be happy or love ourselves, then how can we do this to other people?
Learning to change our behavior can help us change our mind about others being not who we want them to be. We should be willing to change our behavior, because let’s face it, we can’t change other people, am I right? So changing our normal day skills, then it's so much easier to accept people for who they are.
You realize in time that people aren't going to meet your expectations. People are going to do what they want to do, and we may never approve of it. But the question to ourselves is, “why does it bothr me?”, “Why can’t I make them do something that I need them to do?” or “Why can’t I change them to do what I want them to do?” Well, sadly, this isn’t something we have control over. We only have control over ourselves. I know it's so hard to accept at first, but being able to do this makes everything so much easier. Accepting that we don't need to be a part of a group or a team. While accepting that we can be ourselves and involve ourselves in a small group, or just be with ourselves.
It doesn’t make your life lonely or empty; it makes you realize that you just need to involve yourself with people who accept you for you and who you can accept for others being themselves.
Accepting yourself and others can go a long way in life. It’s something we will never stop doing. However, we can change our thinking pattern about how we view ourselves, but also how we view others. It takes time, and this isn't something that will happen overnight. Importantly, when things get tough or you feel like you can't do it, change that thought pattern and say, “I can do this.” You'll notice that you aren't being harsh on yourself, and you're actually accepting that there's something you can't change, so you'll have to accept it.
You should always be proud of how hard you put in the work to do this. Being proud of the successful process that you never gave up on. Be happy that, after all the hard work, you have grown into accepting yourself and others without judgment or harsh thinking.
Do you think that this is something that you can or need to work on? What are some ways that help you recognize that you need to make changes in your life?
-With Love